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by Melissa on November 29, 2010

Isn’t it strange that sometimes we avoid the things that are best for us?

I got a big lesson about that at my Thanksgiving celebration, which was far from traditional this year. Megs and I went on The Great Ducking Out Rally in Portland. It was fun. And so exciting. It was really nutty how it worked.

We would start the day doing Shiva Nata, and then we would break away to work on projects, break for lunch, work on projects more, and end the day with yoga.

It might not sound crazy fabulous, but get this, the Rally was at this place called The Playground. Which is such a coincidence (or maybe one of the reasons we were drawn to go?) because our new product is all about inventive play.

It explains how magical play is, how beneficial it is for growth and brain development, and how all of this can happen without spending money on the latest toy or gadget.

We even throw in some stuff about how important it is for adults. As you know, it’s been really hard these last couple of years to make room for that in my life because I’ve been working so much. At the day job, and then coaching and developing Tandem Teaching.

I always feel like I don’t have time for play, there’s just too much to do. But, get this, when I was at the Rally, play was built in (Havi’s yoga wasn’t like any yoga class you’ve been to before, unless you’ve been to one where silliness is encouraged and the room is filled with laughter).

And, guess what? When I took the time to play, I got so much done.

I developed three new workshops for Tandem Teaching! I figured out a way to get the word out about our business that’s enjoyable and easy for me! I redesigned how we’re going to do academic and parenting coaching! And Megan did some amazing, beautiful work on her new, (currently) top-secret project!

I believe, with all my heart,  we were able to do such amazing things because we were experiencing the transformative powers of play!

Queenie wrote the section “What is Play?” in our book. Here’s a couple of the ways she breaks it down in the book:

  • During play a person interacts with the environment in a three-dimensional fashion intermingling with fantasy, creativity, and reality in a way that improves the human condition.
  • Play is the ability to use your mind, body, and spirit in such a way as to create something out of nothing.
  • Through play, the answers to great problems emerge and inventions are birthed.

That’s exactly what happened for me and Megs this week. And so much more that I can’t even begin to write about. We have so many ideas simmering.

It’s funny how I see this exact same thing happen with kids all of the time when they’re given the chance to really play. Not with the expensive garbage that’s being hocked at them from every angle, especially this time of year, (did I mention one of my favorite parts of the rally was we didn’t have to deal with Black Friday?).

Amazing things happen when kids are given a chance to create and play authentically.

When you spend less, kids actually have more fun.

If this concept is new to you, sounds kind of crazy, and you’re not sure exactly how that works, you can find out more about it here.

I hope that you made some time to play this long weekend. If you didn’t, I this post inspires you to!

Melissa Lubaszka is the founder of Tandem Teaching and teaches in the inner-city. She blogs weekly about tips parents can implement to enhance their connection with their children and ways to bring out their children’s inherent gifts. Contact her for a private consulting session.


Megan November 29, 2010 at 11:18 am

I had so much fun. Bubbles! Costumes! Dancing! I even built a blanket fort.

And, yes, made ridiculous amounts of progress on the Secret Project.

cynthia November 29, 2010 at 12:14 pm

Thanks, Melissa, for such a great summary of the extreme magic that is Rally. Very possibly the best Thanksgiving week of all time for non-pilgrims.

Getting to know the dynamic M&M duo was at the very top of the list, followed by Shivaing it up, Old Turkish Lady Yoga, and then getting things DONE! Shazam!