Why Your Kid Refuses to Do the Fun Activities You Plan

by Melissa on August 30, 2010

When I was growing up, mom had this book called “Let’s Make a Memory!”

Looking back on it, it’s hard to tell why we didn’t love that book. It was filled with different activities that were authentic, engaging, and developmentally appropriate. But I can distinctly remember when we heard mom call out, “Guys! Let’s make a memory!”

My siblings and I would scurry away and hide.

Why were we so resistant?

One reason is we were fiercely independent, another is because, I don’t know, it felt kind of awkward to have someone basically tell us, “Guys! It’s time to have fun, and we’re going to do it this way!”

It took all of the fun out of the discovery process.

The Secret of the Taffy Pull

Now, when my ma started to make taffy? Pulling out pots and measuring and the infamous taffy pull at the end? She’d often have at least two of her three underfoot in no time.

“What are you doing? Can I help? Can I make one?” we’d squeal.

The same thing happened with tie-dying T-shirts.

That’s the secret to building powerful memories with your child. Its also the work-around for a kid refusing to do all those fun activities you’ve planned. When an activity is born of spontaneity and fun, your child will be rushing to join you.

Start making a building with cups yourself and when your kiddo comes by and ask you what you’re up to, let them know you’re just playing.

They’ll jump in and takeover. You might even be able to slip away while they’re so engaged and have time to answer your email.

Melissa Lubaszka is the founder of Tandem Teaching and teaches in the inner-city. She blogs weekly about tips parents can implement to enhance their connection with their children and ways to bring out their children’s inherent gifts. Contact her for a private consulting session.